First impressions are important, but to get a girl and actually keep her you have to be able to sustain yourself. If you already know the girl that you’re after and you’ve met her hopefully you started things off on the right foot, if not you’ve got some work to do.
Wearing clean, properly fitted clothing is a must. Men that dress well look successful and confident, and that’s what all women desire. Brushing your teeth and making sure the hair looks nice isn’t a bad idea. Remember, you want this girl to see you as something to be desired, not reminding her call girls in karachi of her kid brother.
After you’ve got yourself looking sexy it’s time to talk to the girl. Talk to her not at her. Why is this important? Girls aren’t as dumb as some people think they are, there is nothing more frustrating than going out with a group of friends and constantly getting hit on. Pickup lines and cheesy conversation aren’t going to get you anywhere.
So what should you say to her? Anything. Talk to her AND those around her (this is very important), be a pleasant person and don’t forget to smile. Your first few conversations with this girl should be positive. Have you ever talked to a “Debbie Downer?” Well, if you have then you know it isn’t any fun. By being a positive person and having good things to talk about you’re subconsciously making her want to be around you. Ever notice the average guy with the hot girl? It’s because he’s brought more to the table than other guys.
A good way to ask for a girl’s number is to be straight forward. After talking to a girl for a few minutes if she seems interested in your or the conversation you’re having it’s a good idea to ask for her number. Let’s say that your friend is having a party later, there’s something going on this weekend, a concert, charity event, etc. Make an excuse about how you must leave the conversation, “Excuse me, I’ve got to go…” and then say something such as, “Hey there’s this (great event) this weekend, you should come meet us there. Can I get your number?” Say it as if you’re a friend, not some guy just looking for action.
A girl is going to give up her number to a guy that can hold a conversation much easier than she will to a guy that’s just using pick up lines. Pick up lines don’t work, I can’t stress that enough. Regardless of if you’re looking for the love of your life or just a girl to talk to the way to approach her is as a friendly person.
After you’ve got her number it’s time to talk to her. Don’t follow those ridiculous dating guidelines that say wait three days to contact her, it’s useless! In three days she could have met someone else. Call or text the girl when you feel like you’re ready. It’s a good idea to send ONE text message saying something such as, “Hey, this is Billy we met last night at (place). Just wanted you to have my number. Concert is on Saturday if you’re interested!” It’s simple, short, and to the point. It’s perfect! If you don’t hear from this girl for a few days it’s okay to call her but if she still doesn’t communicate with you beyond that it may be wise to let it go.
Some women take longer than others to respond. Maybe she has a boyfriend, or just got out of a bad relationship and that’s why she didn’t call. Whatever you do don’t blame yourself, there are many circumstances out of your control. It’s a good idea to meet and mingle with many different types of women. You never know who you’re going to meet or how much fun you can have together. So keep your eyes and options open!
Even if it doesn’t happen with the first girl you talk to, it will happen. You’re going to meet a girl that has an interest in you. The beginning of a romance is so much fun! When you guys start talking do your best to be a good listener and pay attention to the things she values in life. Hopefully, your relationship can move forward on the premise that you have some things in common.
The first few dates with a girl should be in neutral places that you have a chance to talk. Coffee shops, lunch dates, outdoor events, these are all good places to go to get to know somebody. Every relationship is different so it’s up to you to decide when you want to take the relationship further (i.e. serious dating). No matter what your ideal time frame is always remember to have fun with the girl you’re with. Laughter and communication keep a relationship alive.